Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Just My Thoughts:Attitude & Outlook

“A happy person is not a person
in a certain set of circumstances,
but rather a person
with a certain set of attitudes.”
Hugh Downs

Tonight I was at a new poetry spot and the MC asked how many folks were in a relationship. When she only received very light applause, she then asked how many were looking for somebody to be in a relationship with. I think maybe one and 1/2 people clapped. I say half, because there was quite a bit of uncertainty. Finally she asked, who had just gotten out of a relationship and was just bitter. Of course, she received a wave of laughter but no one actually owned up to it. But really wanted to participate and the question I was waiting for was "Who is happy right where you are?" Nothing else, plain and simple. To that I would have stood on my chair and sang "Me, Me, Me, Me, Me." Actually, no I wouldn't have done that. I just would have said it really loud. ;)
As much as I may rant when perturbed. When left to reflect and enjoy me, I am quite happy where I am now. Relationships with others can be beautiful, but the relationship one has with self is the most important. Afterall, we all have said at one point or another, "You must love yourself first and if not can we really love another person." But how many of us truly take those words to heart? Do we really apply them when we need to the most? Or do we blindly trudge through the muck and mire around us, hoping it will soon get easier? Sometimes it does get easier, depending on the attitude we select to deal with people and situations. However, we also need to learn when that attitude doesn't need to be adjusted. Sometimes we just need to apply the attitude we are already equipped with to handle what life places at our feet. Don't let your lenses get cloudy and doubt what you already know. Stay focused on YOUR happiness. I'm back working on this one myself. Until we meet again.......journey light.
Love, peace, and an abundance of joy,
E

1 comment:

Shana said...

I'm with you on that one. I have voiced in my new, single pursuit of healthy relationships that I would adhere to the prescription giving by many relationship consultants. They say it takes twice as long as the existence of the relationship to actually heal from it, gain insight from it, and redevelop yourself from all the compromises and adaptations you've put yourself through trying to maintain it. That would place me in 2014. I'm sure there are some variations considering the relationship but not only am I pursuing the knowledge of healthy relationships, I am creating an atmosphere within myself that will attract the same thing. I do have some yearning here and there since I was unfulfilled long before I actually moved along; however, I'm pacing myself and making sure I correct those things within myself that allowed me to knowingly overlook situations and actions I knew were against the grain of my flow. Good lookin' out. Luv ya*
~Shana